03-05-2018, 06:08 | #11 |
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I came across a website recently where the PD made it very clear that any chat just before the session would be included in the time booked. I can understand the financial imperatives behind this - especially if the session space is being rented by the hour - but I can also see how it might encourage people to move more quickly into play and spend less time negotiating. (No idea if this was the case here, of course).
More broadly in response to the OP - I've come to think the most Important thing of all in a PD is to find someone who really listens - not just to your trials and tribulations although that's nice - but is looking out for and responding to the way the sub is reacting to the session, so it can become something interactive and shared, rather than a series of kinky things being done by one person to another. Hope your next session is a happier one!
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Anyway, with such pressured JIT arrangements how are the variances and unreliability of transport accounted for ? Either client or Mistress has to give up some time for free in order for it all to work. Like a well running engine the tolerances need to be set just right; too tight and the engine will lock solid and not turn over, too slack and the engine will not run for long. There needs to be a Goldilocks sweet spot agreed between lady and client. Also, how does 10 mins either end cost a Mistress £100 ? What is costing her £300/hr ? Kind Regards, The Fireman.
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Back to the original topic, I hate hearing about sessions like these. Unfortunately websites are easily up and running liking very slick within a day for those who know how to build them.
A first time session is in my opinion a getting to know each other session, building trust, finding the connection and from my side learning about the person and the body I am playing with. There is no excuse for a safe word not being acted on, If the lady heard you clear enough to go and check your limits she heard you well enough to hear your safe word. If she did not it was still on her to check how you were during the session. As has been said, you are spending a lot of money and should have limits respected. I am curious about your communication however, saying you did not want any pre session communication with someone you had never sessioned with before is not something I would allow on a first session. I would suggest contacting the Mistress in question laying out your side of the session, if she is decent she will reply and hopefully you can put the to rest. She will learn a lesson if she is new maybe. If she does not reply, well you also will have learned something new about communication. |
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With hindsight these things should be taken slowly and I'm doing that with someone else, but like I said earlier after six months between sessions I felt the need to play. I do find building a relationship with a pro quite hard - just getting email answered is hard enough! |
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I do understand the overkill that some subs get into but I've never been with someone who just getting a response from is hard. Having said that, herself does have a habit of leaving her mobile at home, right at the bottom of her bag and in the boot of her car! |
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Yes, I find it a strange way to run a business. But I can think of plenty of reasons why.
On Wednesday, in an effort to get back on the horse, I emailed two mistresses, both active (one was even advertising spare availability today). Neither has replied yet. I generally don't send a chaser; "why haven't you replied" is unlikely to win friends. I introduce myself, say how I've heard of them, explain my kinks and ask if they'd like to session. I'm not obsequious but not rude either, just normal. My mistress friends say that as soon as I say I'm not looking to bow and scrape my email will go in the bin, because I'll be seen as harder work than someone who just wants foot worship. Even so a quick "no thanks" would be nice. |
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