opening up to mistress

[mikeyports]

I enjoy sessioning so much but one of my problems has been opening up to mistress re my likes etc have been embarrassed etc.

the last time I decided to do it it did not work out but feel it was the wrong Mistress.

I trust the Mistress I am seeing now I have known her a long time but only started sessioning recently but feel the more open I am the better the sessions are.

Mistress says I over think things in session and she's right .

I have built up trust and feel I should open up more or even completely

Is this something that's built up on trust?
or should I have done it day one?

[Mistress Adore]

I think there is no right or wrong answer to this. Of course communication is always key yet we are all who we are and can only do what feels right to us.

I find trust grows, fostering an environment that keeps the doors of expansion and communication open is best and yet I know professional relationships that innocently have closed the doors of expansion by the Mistress thinking the sub only likes certain things and the sub not wanting the Mistress to think less of him if he opens up to new things.

Most ladies understand this can happen and take steps to ensure it does not and yet still sometimes it happens.

One thing is for sure, if you know the lady you see offers to others what you would like to try she will think nothing less of you. If it is something she does not offer to others she can always say no and as long as it is legal and not on her hard limit list will still not think any less of you.

Mikey

Sessions are to be about getting out of my "normal street" self, I do not feel I get embarrassed about my kinks, likes dislikes etc, after all we are both there to have a purvey time.


Try not to feel embarrassed as you have eluded too the more open you are the better the sessions are, because the Mistress then knows more about what it is you really want in a session

[Rehrednu]

I recognise this obstacle sometimes.

When you first meet someone, there’s a natural reticence and I tend to stick to what I’ve tried and tested, rather than perhaps something that’s a deep lying fantasy.

But then if you get to know someone really well, and develop a non session based friendship, it has felt embarrassing for a different reason.

A lot depends on what type of relationship you want, and how you session. I’ve always searched for longer connections and for that reason tended not to overload my Mistress.

If it was just about exploring a particular kink with an empathetic but perhaps one off interaction, I’d be much more relaxed.

[Lisal]

For me, it's grown as we've got to know each other better and better. I understand the feeling but, as MA says, many PDs have heard it before and aren't bothered in the slightest.

I am aware that I can say and suggest anything. She's fine about that but has also been clear on one or two occasions that that's not something she wants to do - or, more importantly, enjoy.

We know your lady Mikey. She's pretty unshockable.

[mikeyports]

That's what made it so good I spoke to mistress and she said say what you like and she would play on it and would not be upset.

I just feel I should not overthink things but when some thinks on my mind I should say so.

Even though I have been doing this for 20years like a lot of things in life I feel I will always be learning

Lisal I know Mistresses hard limits and would not dream to ask.


Mistress Adore
I find trust grows, fostering an environment that keeps the doors of expansion and communication open is best and yet I know professional relationships that innocently have closed the doors of expansion by the Mistress thinking the sub only likes certain things and the sub not wanting the Mistress to think less of him if he opens up to new things.


Its happened to me in the past but my fault and know I need to be more open


thanks all