UKM - Reflection on your Mistress - UK

Mistress Adore · 31-10-2012, 09:03

A little fun in the introduction section, had got me thinking again

Does how you conduct yourself, both online and in person, in your opinion reflect on your Mistress, if you have one ?

Is this something you have ever thought about ?

I had one of mine, not long ago, who was making remarks on fl and they were a verging on crass and sexist, so i told him to consider how he posted and how it made him look as one of my gents.

The remarks were not to bad, but i expect better from mine.

Mistress's is this something that would say something about or does it not bother you ?

subjay · 31-10-2012, 11:09

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Originally Posted by Mistress Adore

Does how you conduct yourself, both online and in person, in your opinion reflect on your Mistress, if you have one ?

Is this something you have ever thought about ?

I do think that ones behaviour does reflect on ones Mistress - provided of course we are not just talking about a single session, but a longer, deeper relationship with your Mistress, where the implication is that your Mistress has somehow "trained" you as sub or slave.

I am with jon123 though - this is exactly one of the reasons why I also keep very discreet about what I have done with what Mistress, unless a Mistress allows me or encourages me to post explicitly about our relationship or activities.

Mistress Susannah · 31-10-2012, 11:52

I've often seen a post - either something really cringeworthingly sucking up or something abusive to someone else online - where I've thought, rightly or wrongly, "if they were mine, I would bollock them!"

Does it make me think less of the Mistress.... yes, a little. By association, it does reflect badly on them.

31-10-2012, 15:20

Lucky Lisal - who has a domme who doesn't go online much and, certainly, doesn't do forums like this

I must admit I do wonder sometimes how I would be if she did have an online presence. I know she would want me to be natural and, like others, I wouldn't disclose the relationship. I think I might be a tad more careful, though

Like Mistress Susannah I have seen some real OTT posts from subs where I have thought "whoa" that's not good and wondered if their dommes knew and even encouraged them

Mistress Esme · 31-10-2012, 21:59

I am not that uptight when it comes to things like this. I like them to be themselves.

Lady Anna · 31-10-2012, 22:20

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Originally Posted by Mistress Susannah

I've often seen a post - either something really cringeworthingly sucking up or something abusive to someone else online - where I've thought, rightly or wrongly, "if they were mine, I would bollock them!"

Does it make me think less of the Mistress.... yes, a little. By association, it does reflect badly on them.

This.

I would be mortified if any of my clients did that to/for me.

I fight my own battles.

Rehrednu · 31-10-2012, 22:28

No, I don't think about it at all.

What I say and do reflects on me, and by of an aside I would hope that there's nothing she would take exception to, though she might not always agree with me. That's fine.

Whilst my preference in session is to have as complete a mental as well as physical transfer of power as possible, this doesn't read across in to the rest of my life.

I like my Mistress a lot, and hopefully treat her accordingly. But I'm my own person with my own views.

01-11-2012, 13:11

I have seen collard slaves, who were perfectly polite and respectful when with their Mistress, be rude and downright selfish when left alone, or when attending an event by themselves. or when contacting me. Or who behave themselves with some Mistresses because they like them, but treat others appallingly. I've been o both ends of this peculiar stick.

I think it's unfair to blame the bad behaviour of an unsupervised slave on the Mistress. If said people are waiting to be "off the leash" to cause trouble, that's something in their personalities and their natures. Good, sincere subs will want to be good all the time. A so called sub who only needs to be let by himself, to cause trouble, is not submissive at all, just opportunistic.

There is a limit to our influence on slaves, and it will only work if the slave believes in it, if it's not a game he plays to attract his Mistress. We can't control who lie to us and put a pretence facade on. It doesn't mean we are bad Mistresses when somebody is not all he pretends to be.

You don't need a stern, watchful eye monitoring you to behave yourself. A slave doens't need a constant, imminent threat, to be a good slave, and if he does, then where is the submission? Does it end as soon a the sexy fully seamed nylons disappear from sight?

MistressRouge · 01-11-2012, 13:55

My collared slave's are a credit to Me, and project that accordingly in all situations . My slave emenac is a member and a lurker here. I do not wish him to post and sing My praises here at UKM. I feel the same at other fora too. I am confident in both of Mine to behave in a way that will not to disgrace Me. I have had emenac escort friends to Femdom events to serve My friends in My absence.

The slave's that I have met at events, usually friends slave's have all been impeccable with manners and how they project themselves . The single subs that I have seen with alot to be desired was at a London Femdom club. Not all but quite a few of them.

MistressRouge · 01-11-2012, 13:57

I feel a slave's behaviour does infact reflect on their Mistress, I have always thought this.

31-10-2012, 09:03	#1
Mistress Adore Moderator Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1,730 Reputation: 104	Reflection on your Mistress A little fun in the introduction section, had got me thinking again Does how you conduct yourself, both online and in person, in your opinion reflect on your Mistress, if you have one ? Is this something you have ever thought about ? I had one of mine, not long ago, who was making remarks on fl and they were a verging on crass and sexist, so i told him to consider how he posted and how it made him look as one of my gents. The remarks were not to bad, but i expect better from mine. Mistress's is this something that would say something about or does it not bother you ?

31-10-2012, 11:52	#3
Mistress Susannah Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: South East London Posts: 732 Reputation: 112	I've often seen a post - either something really cringeworthingly sucking up or something abusive to someone else online - where I've thought, rightly or wrongly, "if they were mine, I would bollock them!" Does it make me think less of the Mistress.... yes, a little. By association, it does reflect badly on them. __________________ http://www.mistresssusannah.co.uk

31-10-2012, 21:59	#5
Mistress Esme Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: London Posts: 377 Reputation: 123	I am not that uptight when it comes to things like this. I like them to be themselves. __________________ http://www.mistress-esme.com/

01-11-2012, 13:11	#8
Ms_Tytania Guest Posts: n/a	I have seen collard slaves, who were perfectly polite and respectful when with their Mistress, be rude and downright selfish when left alone, or when attending an event by themselves. or when contacting me. Or who behave themselves with some Mistresses because they like them, but treat others appallingly. I've been o both ends of this peculiar stick. I think it's unfair to blame the bad behaviour of an unsupervised slave on the Mistress. If said people are waiting to be "off the leash" to cause trouble, that's something in their personalities and their natures. Good, sincere subs will want to be good all the time. A so called sub who only needs to be let by himself, to cause trouble, is not submissive at all, just opportunistic. There is a limit to our influence on slaves, and it will only work if the slave believes in it, if it's not a game he plays to attract his Mistress. We can't control who lie to us and put a pretence facade on. It doesn't mean we are bad Mistresses when somebody is not all he pretends to be. You don't need a stern, watchful eye monitoring you to behave yourself. A slave doens't need a constant, imminent threat, to be a good slave, and if he does, then where is the submission? Does it end as soon a the sexy fully seamed nylons disappear from sight? Last edited by Ms_Tytania; 01-11-2012 at 13:15.

01-11-2012, 13:55	#9
MistressRouge Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: World Wide Posts: 1,614 Reputation: 26	My collared slave's are a credit to Me, and project that accordingly in all situations . My slave emenac is a member and a lurker here. I do not wish him to post and sing My praises here at UKM. I feel the same at other fora too. I am confident in both of Mine to behave in a way that will not to disgrace Me. I have had emenac escort friends to Femdom events to serve My friends in My absence. The slave's that I have met at events, usually friends slave's have all been impeccable with manners and how they project themselves . The single subs that I have seen with alot to be desired was at a London Femdom club. Not all but quite a few of them. __________________ Chastity Keyholder Sovereign

31-10-2012, 15:20	#4
Lisal Guest Posts: n/a	Lucky Lisal - who has a domme who doesn't go online much and, certainly, doesn't do forums like this I must admit I do wonder sometimes how I would be if she did have an online presence. I know she would want me to be natural and, like others, I wouldn't disclose the relationship. I think I might be a tad more careful, though Like Mistress Susannah I have seen some real OTT posts from subs where I have thought "whoa" that's not good and wondered if their dommes knew and even encouraged them

31-10-2012, 22:28	#7
Rehrednu Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Midlands Posts: 318 Reputation: 60	No, I don't think about it at all. What I say and do reflects on me, and by of an aside I would hope that there's nothing she would take exception to, though she might not always agree with me. That's fine. Whilst my preference in session is to have as complete a mental as well as physical transfer of power as possible, this doesn't read across in to the rest of my life. I like my Mistress a lot, and hopefully treat her accordingly. But I'm my own person with my own views.

01-11-2012, 13:57	#10
MistressRouge Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: World Wide Posts: 1,614 Reputation: 26	I feel a slave's behaviour does infact reflect on their Mistress, I have always thought this. __________________ Chastity Keyholder Sovereign