Dommes:ever genuinely scared/terrified? Subs: ever been scared/terrified?

[chris4slavery]

Question:just like the title for subs AND Dommes.

subs
Have you ever been genuinely scared in a session?

Dommes, have you deliberately or accidentally terrified a sub?

Dommes and subs
Did it ruin the session? Did it make it better? Would you do something like it again? Are there certain types of fear you would seek out or avoid?
Would you like to share some experiences here?

I can recall a few situations:-
1)One was with an American Mistress. Before this session, I'd already met with her and chatted for hours quite a few times over a a month or so. We'd agreed how much punishment I would get beforehand. And I would get more if I flinched or swore or whatever or requested toilet breaks. We'd also discussed that her objective is to "break subs" by pain, by entering their mind and all approaches. It was hard to estimate how bad the punishment would be because I didn't know how hard She'd hit or what the implements would be like. She was clear that if I chickened out, I would be banished and could never report to her again.Even silly questions would earn extra. She was very domineering but had a wonderful, therapeutic insight too. She knew lots about what made me tick. She was kind and loving and could see right inside me and take control of what was there. In my initial days/weeks with her, I finally understood how men could genuinely love their Mistresses beyond the pure physical aspect of it. Anyway this beating began with the lower implements but wow she hit hard! Then we ascended different implements. After a while I was worried about the marks it might leave. Eventually I was screaming "please I'm begging, I don't want to have scars, I don't want to look like a freak" etc etc. It just seemed to fuel her rage, where she yelled "yes it might leave scars, you should have thought about it beforehand". And we hadn't even approached the "big" implements" yet. This led to quite an extended, traumatic set of pleas and begging with her angry disinterested response that I should have thought about things before the session. I was completely sure I would leave physically scarred for life! I was even being told that begging would earn me extra!
It was atleast 20 minutes of the session, possibly/probably more. Fairly early in a 2 hour session.
Maybe I won't go into the details, but eventually She said "calm down calm down, I won't hurt you that bad". I admit she had got me absolutely terrified. When I finally got my reassurances I felt like she was my Saviour, a Goddess who had saved me... even though the beating continued for quite a long while longer. It was like She had saved my life.


Ofcourse this is in the mindgames territory. Strictly speaking I'm not sure if we can say I "consented" to it. But the theme was "to be broken for very bad behaviour with a minimum of x strokes". Looking back it was an exhilarating.
Would I want to be so scared ever again, even past explicit consent? I don't know. Do you think She acted wrongly by playing a mind game, arguably without consent?

[geordiesouth]

I am guessing by your comment “Did not know how hard she would hit� That this was a session booked to see a mistress you had not met before.

Which in itself would terrify me. Entering the unknown.

Any kind of punishment frightens me to death. Paying a tribute bloody well terrifies me for fucks sake.

But I understand the mind games all too well.

Surely if you did not want to me marked or scarred, you might have thought about this in the first place.

[chris4slavery]

Originally Posted by geordiesouth

I am guessing by your comment “Did not know how hard she would hit� That this was a session booked to see a mistress you had not met before.

Which in itself would terrify me. Entering the unknown.

Any kind of punishment frightens me to death. Paying a tribute bloody well terrifies me for fucks sake.

But I understand the mind games all too well.

Surely if you did not want to me marked or scarred, you might have thought about this in the first place.

I think I added details. We'd socialised together before a lot. But this was our first punishment session.

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I told her before the punishment that I didn't want any marks to last more than 7/10 to 14 days absolute max. And that was understood beforehand. Partly because I was dating a vanilla girl (who was away at the time) and would be horrified at any non vanilla interests I had.

So it was clearly agreed that extended marks, let alone permanent scars would NOT happen.

Incidentally, she was into Pagan practices. She was actually terrific, but in the session during that part, I was terrified that she was some sort of satanist who lured men into being scarred for life.

[geordiesouth]

[chris4slavery]

Originally Posted by geordiesouth

lol

[Lisal]

The only time I was really "scared" was actually before a session.

I got there and it became apparent that we weren't suited at all. So I said I didn't want to carry on. The domme and her maid became very verbally aggressive demanding money for their wasted time. To get out of there I handed over £25. It was a long time ago!

[geordiesouth]

I would definitely agree with that last sentence mate

[Holofernes]

I've been terrified once, many years ago, in the early days of UKM: 2001, I think, at a CP party organized by one of our then members, Sisi. At that time, I was a moderator. There were three mistresses present, none of whom I had met before. As the evening wore on, I volunteered to be the recipient of a public caning, of 100 strokes, from one of the mistresses. Once she had strapped me to the whipping bench, she whispered in a very hostile tone that she had a big grudge against UKM and that I, as a moderator, was responsible for its misdeeds and was about to suffer for them. I had no idea what these misdeeds were, and therefore could not try to appease her. Without further ado she started to cane me and, yes, I was terrified.

Strangely, however, it turned out to be very agreeable experience.

[Bjorn Brimble]

Originally Posted by Holofernes

Once she had strapped me to the whipping bench, she whispered in a very hostile tone that she had a big grudge against UKM and that I, as a moderator, was responsible for its misdeeds and was about to suffer for them.

[mikeyports]

Sorry of topic Sisi's nice guy hope he's well