23-11-2012, 10:45 | #21 | |
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Of course eventually the penny drops that these cretins also ignore the NO SEX! notices so we eventually don't bother, remove the no sex stuff, and just hang up on them when they phone.
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23-11-2012, 14:17 | #22 |
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What do escorts and pro doms have in commen?
They are both human beings real people who are doing what they want and enjoy doing.
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23-11-2012, 15:00 | #23 | |
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This then feeds into the notion that other choices subs make on the places they pick to session could be a bad/wrong one. Not exactly good for new members that may be put off posting by this attitude. I do not want to visit the L.Retreat but I would not berate anyone else from doing so and it took a sub that had been there to set the record straight that condoms were used on toys. I find the deliberate berating and slagging off of other Mistresses and establishments by some individuals (Mistresses who have never visited and thus do not know first hand) highly unprofessional and unsavoury. Rbn |
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23-11-2012, 20:24 | #24 |
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Anally penetrating someone with your fist is about power rather than any more direct manipulation of their libido. I'm talking about adding flavour to the stew and I'm sure you can see the distinction.
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I'm not expecting penetrative or oral sex to be a likely event, because that's not how people actually work. What I just want is someone who understands how important positive human touch can be and is willing to give me that. I don't think most women would have a major problem with that in the context of the overall experience, if this desire to not feel like a sex worker didn't get in the way. I believe that your sessions probably are more overtly sexual than some (based on what you've posted in other threads) and I think you probably understand how important engaging your subject's libido can potentially be, as part of the whole event. This is what I'm talking about with sexually literate S&M play and you don't have to have actual penetrative sex to give a good experience. Just need to have a good understanding of how men work and have the will to manipulate their desire in a more overt and human way. Quote:
Edit: Right. Anyone feel like an experiment? Post on Mumsnet, explaining what you do and making it clear that sex isn't involved. I'd love to see the replies. Last edited by JustJames; 23-11-2012 at 21:26. |
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23-11-2012, 21:33 | #26 | |
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After reading this I'm beginning to wonder if you know anything about what we do at all. It's quite clear from replies on this forum, and on our websites, that all Mistresses know the difference between 'sexual' and 'sexually available'. We're all sexual. We all know the power of touch, or tease, or temptation. Why on earth are you trying to tell us what we do? Talk about teaching granny to suck eggs!
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23-11-2012, 21:40 | #27 | |
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I kind of suspect this may also be more about social class than anything else. Both me and the 'ow much luv?' people may be looking for someone to fulfil our rather uncommon psychosexual desires, but I'm the only one of us who ends up succeeding. I can phrase the question tactfully enough to negotiate what I want, without being angrily rejected. We're both driven primarily by sexual urges, but he's giving a more direct advance than I am, because that's the way he expresses his sexuality and the starting point is a desire for penetrative sex of some form. For S&M newbies this is probably going to be understandably common. It may also be the case that he's simply learnt that he has a better chance of successfully obtaining intimacy by being bold with potential partners. Perhaps I'm being slightly naïve, but I suspect they haven't totally ignored what you you actually do and may be just as interested in your services as the people who pass through vetting. I'm sure trying to explain would be rather draining, but I'd be interested seeing the response to some of these phone calls, where you give a more gentle push in the right direction and don't instantly make them feel rejected. |
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23-11-2012, 21:45 | #28 |
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Not convinced and my experience is that there is a none-trivial degree of sexual incompetence about. Every website uses phrases like 'sensual domination' and the like, but the actual event can be quite different.
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23-11-2012, 21:59 | #29 | |
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None of us should ever feel obliged to explain the meaning of the word no.
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23-11-2012, 22:07 | #30 |
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There is a difference between.
-no *slams phone down* -no *explains services and tries to establish their interest in what you're actually providing* I don't actually expect anyone to have the patience to ever attempt the second and this is just a hypothetical really. |
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